I have recently noticed that there is a really vicious and nasty culture of shaming people who don’t have children.
After stumbling across this Facebook post, I am truly shocked by the appalling comments. The topic of the article is about the “Unbaby me” app, which is apparently very controversial. It is also apparent that according to some of these people, if you don’t have children, you are a hedonistic, narcissistic, celebrity-obsessed party animal.
Here are examples of some of the comments:
“Can I get an app to hide the skanky pictures girls share??? I mean, if they can hide pictures of my beautiful daughter, I should be able to hide their disturbing camel toe.”
Some of them were targeting one individual (Kelly) who found the app to be quite useful -
”Kelly if you are that annoyed by pictures and statuses of their children then you are obviously not really friends with them so why are they on your friends list to begin with?”
"If someone wants to un baby me, they should just lets know and I’ll go ahead and un friend them, cuz they are obviously not a friend!"
"you obvioisly do not have kids. You live, breathe and sleep for your kids.. You don’t have an identity outside of your kids anymore… which friends understand. At least good ones"
“Wow kelly. You must not have kids because sorry but I may have an “identity” outside of my child bu I do not have a life outside of her. She is my life period. And she is eating chicken nuggets just so you know. “
“Give me a good reason why I want to see pictures of you trashed, dancing like a whore, you in a dirty mirror, sticking your ass out or giving the middle finger??? At least kids are cute. Why would I want to read about how you are so drunk?? Or that youre lookin to go out tonight?? or stupid song lyrics????”
This is my opinion. If you are that nasty and hateful of a person to assume that someone is a ‘whore,’ or a ‘skank’ for not having children, then you probably should not have had them. Because you are going to be responsible for breeding more hateful, nasty people.
If you want children, that’s your business. But it is in no way acceptable for you to trash people that don’t want that lifestyle. To put people down like that is actually bullying, and I don’t see how you could possibly be a good parent if you are bullying others.
It is just disgusting, and it has to stop. Also, your identity does not have to be forsaken for your children. I live by the words of RuPaul; if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else? That applies to every aspect of your life, including being a parent, if that’s the lifestyle you chose. How can you be a good parent if you become a mindless drone, obeying your children and giving in to their every whim? You’re the boss, it’s your life, and your children should answer to you.
I’m going to end this by saying that I personally do not want children. I am in a long term relationship, and we have agreed that having children is not for us. But I solemnly believe that even if I were single, I would feel the same way. I do not party, I am not a whore, or a skank. I do not post shameless, crude photographs of myself on social media. My ambitions include a career full of travel, art, and fun. I want to travel the world and work as an artist in many countries. I want to gain knowledge and educate others. I want to make the world a better place. I want to marry my partner and live the rest of our lives together.
And I am not going to change my mind about wanting kids, so don’t put that shit on me. Are you going to change your mind about wanting them?
Children are not an interest of mine, and just because I don’t particularly like them, that does not mean I’m a bad friend. I simply am not interested in seeing them in my news feed. (Also, there’s a huge child pornography industry, so if I did have children, I would not compromise their identity by posting their pictures on social media). And just because I don’t want to see baby pictures, that doesn’t make me a monster. I just don’t give a shit. Your baby has nothing to do with me.
Let’s all just be tolerant of one another. If you know someone who doesn’t want children, instead of trying to change their mind, maybe make an effort to open yours. Find out why they don’t want them. Maybe they’ll want to find out why you do.
Rupaul’s Drag Race Season 6?
You mean Rupaul’s Drag Race Season of bullshit calls?
1. Milk being sent home
2. Trinity lasting as long as she did for countless episodes of excuses
3. Using The Non Elimination on Ben & Darienne
4. DARIENNE BEING SAFE AND BEN SASHAYING AWAY?!
5. MILK BEING SENT HOME (WHICH IM STILL NOT OVER)
6. Vivacious not sticking around because I wanted to see more crazy club kid looks
when ur eating dinner at your friends house
and their parents start arguing
and you want to ask for the salt
but the salt is right in between their upcoming divorce
"Today, the richest 400 Americans have more wealth than the bottom 150 million of us put together. Now, think about it. 400 people have more wealth than half the population of the United States." — Robert Reich, Inequality For All
I don’t understand why people congratulate one another for becoming pregnant. A sperm found it’s way to your egg, whoopdedoo! There are 7 billion other examples of that happening on this earth RIGHT NOW!
I’ll only congratulate you when that child grows into a wonderful, kind, loving, well-rounded human being with ambition, pride, and an open, accepting mind.
That will be a testament to your parenting skills, and will deserve congratulations; for that is far rarer than a sperm finding it’s way to an egg.